It is said that basic human joy and sadness are completed around the age of two, and gradually subdivided through childhood, developing in various ways. There are pride, satisfaction, and reassurance in pleasant things, and shame, anxiety, loneliness, and injustice in unpleasant things. There are also complex and subtle parts such as confusion. At first glance, the world of human emotions, which seems simple, develops through a more complex process than anything else. In order to control these emotions and feelings, it is important to know what happens in your mind, and books and movies can also be helpful in this process. This is because books and movies not only entertain the audience and readers, but can also heal a wounded heart and broaden one's view of the world.
 

 

Book

"Whether the other person thinks about me, likes me, or dislikes me, it's his problem, not mine."
-Philosopher

 

<Courage To Be Disliked (2014)>

A young man, the protagonist of the book, has had a dark personality since childhood and cannot get close to people easily. He thinks every day about how long he should live in fear of relationships with others. Then, he meets a philosopher who says to him, "Human beings can change, and everyone can be happy. However, it takes courage to do so." This philosopher, along with Freud and Jung, is Alfred Adler, known as one of the three great giants of psychology. This book, written by Japanese philosopher Kishimiichiro Kishimi and best-selling author Koga Fumitake, summarizes Adler's psychology in dialog which is easy to read. It contains a journey of thinking about how to live a happy life over the course of five meetings between the philosopher and the young man who is negative and feels inferior in the world. During the first night to the fifth night, the conversation between the philosopher and the young man gradually creates tension and adds to the fun. In particular, the young man's rebuttal following the philosopher's argument evokes empathy among readers.

 

Recommendation

Everyone must have thought at least once, "I have this trauma, so I have no choice but to act like this." However, Adler says trauma and past experiences are not a legitimate cause for one's behavior. It is just an excuse that a person uses because he or she is just afraid of leaving their comfort zone. This theory is called causality, but Adler says that we should be based on teleology, not causality. He thinks that everyone can change and grow depending on how they look at the past and what meaning and value they give to the past. When you look at misfortune from this new perspective, you realize that someone is unhappy not because of their past environment or abilities, but because they lack courage. A person's past does not change, but the present and future can change depending on one's perspective. It is a warm, comforting book that allows you to grow out of the evaluation, recognition, and comparison of others and towards a healthy sense of inferiority.
 

 

Movie

"I like crying. It helps me slow down and obsess over the weight of life's problems."
-Sadness

 

<Inside Out (2015)>

One day, a girl named Riley is born. In her head, there is Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger, and Disgust, and they really love and want to protect Riley. They make what is called a 'core memory bead' with each memory: joy is yellow, sadness is blue, fear is purple, anger is red, and disgust is green beads. In the meantime, her family leaves Minnesota, which has memories with many friends due to her parents' circumstances, and moves to San Francisco. Joy tries to please Riley, but her negative emotions begin to explode due to things such as an uncomfortable bed and tasteless pizza. At her new school, she introduces herself, then Sadness touches Riley's emotional control panel. During her self-introduction, she cries in front of many friends and teachers, recalling a good memory in Minnesota. At that time, the unforgettable "core memory bead" was created in blue, and Joy somehow tried to throw them away. However, Sadness argues that this is the core bead and should not be thrown away. During the dispute, the two are sucked into a pipe and taken to an unknown place. Will Joy and Sadness be able to go back to the headquarters safely?
 

 

Recommendation

It is Pixar's 15th feature-length animation, and the director is a master who directed works that shone in Pixar's heyday, such as "Monsters, Inc" and "Up." It has gained popularity among men and women of all ages as a work that expresses human emotions well and has achieved 4.96 million cumulative audiences in Korea. People all live with a variety of emotions. However, from a certain point on, they often reject their sad, angry, or timid heart and pursue only happy and pleasant appearances, and when sadness comes up, they quickly turn away from it and focus on happiness. Even in the movie, Riley's sadness in her heart is ignored and suppressed all the time. However, by ignoring sadness, Riley becomes unable to express emotions freely and loses control of her emotions. In the end, in the course of the adventure, the characters in the movie realize that there can be no joy without sadness. When Riley fully feels the sadness she has turned away from, her emotional headquarters begins to work properly again, and at the end of the sadness, she meets joy. Through these processes, it develops into a more complex emotional headquarters. It is a movie that everyone should see because the character setting is amazing and the story development is solid enough to make audiences think, "People's emotions can be described like this."